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Day 19 – Nifty-Thrifty

Cheap. Frugal. Thrifty. All are compliments in my mind :)

Having a baby is expensive, no? Sidebar – paying for college in 18 years?! I used this college cost calculator and we need to save over $140,000 for Merfbaby to attend a Private 4 Year University. I graduated from a Private University so I’ll assume he may attend one too — goooo Panthers!

In a word – yikes.

So, how do you save monies with a tiny human? Here are a few things we’re doing. It might not be millions of dollars, but I’m thinking every little bit saved will help us down the line.

Get Health Insurance

I know this is sort of a hot topic lately, but if you can get insurance I think it’s worth it for the cost of labor and delivery alone. I recently got the bill for our hospital stay (we left 24 hours early, remember) and it was crazy! We were blessed with a non-medicated, natural birth so I can’t imagine what the costs of an epidural, anesthesiologist and c-section might be. Cray-cray. When I opened the claim from the insurance company all I could say was “thank you Jesus that we have health insurance.”

Breastfeed

I know not all women are able to breastfeed, but if you can it’s a huge savings! Formula is expensive. There’s all kinds of awesome benefits to breastfeeding, both for you and the tiny human. Just think, every day you’re able to breastfeed that’s one day you’re saving money on formula. Heck, every feeding you can do count that as a savings.

Cloth Diaper

You can do all kinds of research about cloth diapering vs. disposals and the cost/environmental impact. We decided to cloth diaper and it’s working really well for us. It can be a larger investment initially – but if you save some of your gift cards from the baby shower you can purchase your cloth diapers at any baby store – Target, Babies R Us, Buy Buy Baby…We did notice an increase in our water bill, and it does take an extra load of laundry every few days, but I love that we can never “run out” of diapers. We used disposal’s that we were gifted for the early weeks when you’re changing diapers like it’s your job, wait – it sort of is.

Love Pre-Loved 

We are so fortunate to have lots of generous friends and family that have children older than Merfbaby. We accepted any and all clothing/books/toys/baby gear they wanted to hand down. I only recently had to buy some winter outfits since most of what we’d been given was summer 6 month clothing (yes, my not even 3 month old baby is wearing 6 month outfits). Our best hand me downs 2, yes TWO Pack N Plays. Both in excellent condition. We keep one at home and I have one at the office. You better believe that we’re going to hang on to Merfbaby’s stuff for Merfbaby 2.0. Even if we have a girl most of the clothing is neutral – hey, stick a bow on her head and call it macaroni.

Eat In

This one isn’t exactly a baby-only savings. We all know that eating at home is cheaper than eating out. In the early months it’s a challenge to cook meals but if you can prep stuff during your prego days or have friends and family that will bring meals by it’s a great way to save. We go out to eat one meal a week, either a lunch or dinner on the weekend. Merfman and I both had pro-out to dinner families so we think it’s important to get out of the house with Merfbaby like it’s no big thang. Plus, at this point we don’t even have to order for him off the children’s menu ;)

Bring Baby Along

As I’ve mentioned before I’m so blessed that I have an amazing boss and a very casual office environment so I’m able to take Merfbaby to work with me. This has been a huge savings since we haven’t needed to pay for childcare yet. I know childcare is a tax write off, but it’s been great not having that extra expense each month. If you can utilize the Grandparent babysitting system that’s a win too!

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Day 17 – The Dark Side of the Moon

From one of my favorite TV Mama’s:

“Raising a kid is like sending a rocket ship to the moon. You spend the early years in constant contact and then one day, around the teenage years, they go around the dark side and they’re gone. All you can do is wait for that faint signal that says they’re coming back.” – Claire Dunphy, Modern Family

So, Modern Family might not be the best example of parenting, but I do appreciate the humor.

If there’s anything I’ve learned in these first 3 months of being a Mama it’s to find the humor in being a parent. Yes, it’s a wonderful experience and a huge blessing, but sometime’s it’s hard and you just have to laugh your way through a tough day.

I remember the first week I was home solo with Merfbaby and we had one of those diaper changes. You know…the one where your one hand is full of baby feet, and the other is clutching a fresh diaper – index finger poised with Desitin when suddenly your entire forearm is coated in babypoo. HOW did that just happen? I remember standing there and just laughing so hard. I didn’t even know where to begin.

Cherish these early years of constant contact. Find the humor in the hard days. Soon enough they’ll be on the other side of the moon and you’ll be waiting for them to come around and think you’re a pretty cool Mama after all.

If not, I’m totally telling that story to his high school Prom date.