Logistics of being a MRS

I’m changing my last name – well, legally I already did. And I have the Marriage certificate to prove it! It’s fun to have the same last name as Manfriend, but it’s also a lot of work to change everything over <— People don’t talk about that part.

I started with the easy, obvious (and socially most important one) changing my name on Facebook. Because we all know if it’s not “facebook official” it didn’t really happen. I accomplished that one pretty easily – FB likes to change their settings just often enough to confuse the crap outta me so I had to hunt in my settings for a bit before I found it. 

Then, based on this article from The Knot (if you’re engaged and you’re not reading the Knot – get on that right now sister) I started with my Social Security Card. In Burbank we are fortunate enough to have a SS Office just down the street from our house. I was kind of dreading this one…uh, government docs = scary. But it was so simple – I was out of there in less than 30 min and there was practically zero wait time. I recommend filing out the form online ahead of time, it makes the process that much quicker. I received my knew card in the mail as few days ago.  But what do I do with my old card? I’m thinking I’ll keep it since I can’t think of a better option. 

I also changed my email signature for work and personal. I have a new email address since my old one includes my maiden name, I just haven’t started using it yet – it’ll happen. 

I mailed off the Health Insurance form to be added to Manfriend’s awesome insurance. Motion Picture Health is one of the greatest perks of being married to a teamster, only 2nd to the free key chains from the union office. 

I’ve filled out the form to update my Passport – but I’m not so excited about the $110 fee, especially since we don’t have any current plans to travel out of the country. Hm, maybe I can wait on that one?

Still remaining are trips to the DMV (or AAA in our case) to update my DL and registration. I should get that done this week. 

Once I have my new DL I can start making the rounds to the banks and get my accounts and cards updated. My checks still list my address as my parents – oops, should probably change that. 

And finally, I need to keep practicing my new signature. It’s so strange to not sign Beintema after Daniella. I think I’ve found a signature that’ll work – but I need to practice so it doesn’t look like a 6 year old wrote it. 


MR & MRS Murphy

It’s been a few weeks since I blogged. I sorry. Facebook was blowing up for days with all the photos from July 28, so I’m sure you knew what went down. We got married!!

When people say “it was the best day of my life” they totally know what’s up. You never want it to end, and you want to spend days celebrating with your friends and family. It truly was the best day ever. 

Here are two of my favorite photos from the night:

I have a million photos from that night and I love looking through them and reliving all the memories from that great night. 

The wedding and reception went above and beyond what we could have imagined and everyone had an amazing time. 

We capped off the wedding festivities yesterday with opening all of our wedding gifts. We are so blessed to have so many generous friends and family members. Now I need to get working on those thank you notes! 

On with Married life!



I’m taking a break from my inbox to savor the moment. In 11 days I will be getting married. The months have flow by since we got engaged, granted there weren’t many – but, still!

On Sunday a lovely and amazing family friend threw me a bridal shower and it was perfect. So many adorable details and wonderful food! I will post photos soon :) 

Yesterday Manfriend and I went to get our marriage license. It was quiet the wait, but 3 hours later we had the special paperwork! 

I’m currently living in a vortex of to-do lists, emails and text messages. I’m trying to slow down time and enjoy these last few days, since I know it will be over so quickly. The wedding planning hasn’t been insane, or horrible by any means. It’s been challenging, and creative. 

I wouldn’t be even close to pulling this off if I didn’t have such wonderful friends and family. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Each of you have gone above and beyond to help bring this wedding together in such a short time. I cannot wait to savor the hard work at the wedding. 

Momma-son and Papa are too incredible for words. They’ve worked endlessly to help bring everything we’ve dreamed up to life. It’s amazing.

Manfriend has been patient and wonderful. He offers amazing suggestions and happily DIY’s with me. Love him. I knew I picked a winner ;)

In closing a photo with Momma-son from the shower on Sunday – isn’t her smile cute :)